Rediscovering Your Core Values—The First Step to Lasting Change

Why Values Matter in Midlife

If you’re a woman over 50, you’ve likely spent years supporting others, building a career, and collecting wisdom from countless books, workshops, and webinars. Yet, despite all this knowledge, you may still feel stuck—unsure of what’s next or how to move forward. The truth is, real transformation begins not with another “how-to” guide, but with a deep understanding of your own core values.

What Are Core Values?

Core values are the fundamental beliefs that guide your decisions, shape your relationships, and influence your sense of fulfillment. They are the compass points that keep you aligned with what truly matters, even when life feels uncertain or overwhelming. Your core values are your anchors.

Why We Lose Touch With Our Values

It’s common for women in midlife to realize they’ve lost sight of their own values. Years of meeting others’ expectations—at work, at home, in your community—can blur the line between what you want and what you think you should want. Add to this, the common narrative from society in general that women are bombarded with constantly, such as “nice girls don’t make waves,” or “you’re really an aggressive bitch,” when in reality you’re using your voice to let others know what you think and need. This disconnect is often at the root of feeling stuck or dissatisfied, no matter how much you’ve accomplished.

The Power of Reconnection

When you reconnect with your core values, you gain clarity and confidence. Decisions become easier. You stop second-guessing yourself. You start to see new possibilities for your next chapter—possibilities that are truly aligned with who you are now, not who you were 20 years ago. Midlife is the perfect time for us to put all our experience, wisdom, and radical self-acceptance and love to use for the greater good. And bonus, friends, we are setting a new, powerful example for younger generations of women to start this work earlier! 

How to Start

Reflect: Set aside quiet time to consider what truly matters to you today—not what mattered in the past, or what others expect. This can be hard because as women, we may have pushed our desires aside for the sake of others for so long, we don’t remember what matters. That is why this work is so critical and valuable. We have so much to contribute and we are worthy of all our desires! 

Notice Patterns: Think about moments when you felt most alive or fulfilled. What values were present? How were you showing up? 

Be Honest: It’s okay if your values have changed. Embrace this evolution as a sign of growth and progress. How boring it would be if we all stayed exactly the same! 

Ready to Take Action?

If you’re ready to get unstuck and start building a life that feels authentic and energizing, I invite you to download my free Values Assessment. It’s a simple, powerful tool to help you clarify what matters most right now.  While you're on that page, check out my other free resources!

And when you’re ready to talk about how to put your values into action, reach out to me by email at beckisalzman@gmail.com or DM me on Instagram @beckisalzman for a conversation about how to turn your insights into action and start living the life you deserve.