Midlife Burnout, Menopause, and the Art of Keeping It Together-Sort Of

Let’s just start with this:

If I’ve been quiet online lately… it’s not because I don’t care. It’s because I’m a woman in midlife.

Which is basically a full-time job with overtime and no lunch break.

Between hormones, responsibilities, adult kids doing adult-kid things (including the hard stuff), and the mental load that could qualify as its own mortgage payment…I’ve been doing what many women do:

Holding everything together while quietly unraveling inside.

So yes. I’ve been absent. But I’m coming back to something that always helps me feel grounded: this space. Blogging feels like a deep exhale.  A place where I can be real without being rushed. And honestly? That’s exactly what midlife requires.

The Midlife Myth: “I Should Be Able to Handle This by Now”

Let me lovingly call out the lie we’ve all been fed:

“You’re strong. You’ve done hard things. You should be able to manage this.”

But midlife isn’t just “hard things.” It’s many hard things at the same time.

It’s:

• Burnout + menopause

• Aging parents + adult kids

• Marriage stress + work pressure

• Body changes + identity shifts

• Financial anxiety + emotional labor

• “What’s next?” + “I’m already exhausted.”

It’s not that you can’t handle it.  It’s that you were never meant to handle it alone.

Menopause Is Not a Personality Flaw

Can we also clear something up? Menopause is not you being dramatic.  It’s not you being weak.  It’s not you “losing your edge.”

It’s a real biological transition that affects:

• sleep

• mood

• energy

• weight

• libido

• brain fog

• motivation

• joint pain

• confidence

• emotional resilience

And the worst part?  You can be doing everything “right” and still feel like your body is ignoring your efforts.  That alone is enough to make a woman want to scream into a pillow and then immediately apologize for being loud.

And Then There’s the Adult Kids Piece…

Let’s talk about what no one prepares you for:

• When your kids become adults…but still need you in big ways.

• Sometimes it’s mental health challenges that are scary and unpredictable. 

• Sometimes it’s financial stress that keeps them stuck. 

• Sometimes it’s both.

And as moms, we don’t just “help.”

We absorb.

We anticipate.

We worry.

We carry their pain like it’s ours to fix.

And we do it while trying to function like everything is normal. Midlife moms are out here running emotional emergency response teams… while also trying to remember if we already took our vitamins today. 🤷‍♀️

This Is Where Coaching Becomes a Lifeline

Coaching is not a luxury for women in this season.  It’s a support system.

Because coaching helps you:

• sort through the mental clutter

• stop spinning in worst-case scenarios

• set boundaries without guilt spirals

• regulate your nervous system when everything feels like too much

• figure out what you actually need (instead of guessing)

• make decisions from clarity instead of panic

• rebuild confidence when you feel like you’ve lost yourself

And sometimes coaching is as simple as this:

Having someone remind you that you’re not crazy—you're overwhelmed.

That’s different. And it matters. YOU MATTER! 

What I Want You to Remember Right Now

If you’re in the thick of it, I want to offer you this. You don’t need a full life overhaul today.

You just need:

• one honest moment

• one supportive conversation

• one small boundary

• one decision that honors your wellbeing

• one breath that reminds your body: I am safe right now.

Midlife isn’t about pushing harder.  It’s about learning how to stop abandoning yourself in the name of keeping everyone else okay.

A Lighthearted Truth: We’re Not Falling Apart… We’re Evolving

Midlife has a way of stripping away what doesn’t work anymore.  And yes, it’s uncomfortable.  But it’s also powerful.  Because the woman you’re becoming? She’s less willing to tolerate burnout.  Less willing to perform perfection.  Less willing to stay silent about what she needs.

She’s still loving.

Still giving.

Still deeply capable.

But now she’s learning to include herself in the equation.  Which is long overdue.

Let’s Talk (Because I Know I’m Not the Only One)

I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

Tell me:

• What are you working through right now?

• What’s been weighing on you lately?

• Or what’s one piece of advice you’d offer to us solution-aware midlife badass women who are just trying to get through each day?

You’re not alone.  And you don’t have to carry everything by yourself anymore. ❤️🥰